Learning to parent therapeutically is the single most important thing you can do to help your traumatised/attachment-disordered child.
We reported in our last blog that foster carers are increasingly looking after young people with complex needs and from traumatic backgrounds. We also mentioned that training has a key role to play in preparing our foster carers to cope with their presenting behaviours.
Therapeutic parenting is part of that kit bag and is the term used to describe the type of high structure/high nurture intentional parenting that fosters feelings of safety and connectedness, so that a traumatised child can begin to heal and attach.
At the Attachment Trauma Network, they have researched all the parenting strategies taught to parents of traumatised children and recognise that many parents find one particular strategy works better than another, or maybe works better during a specific developmental period, or for one child but not another. However, all successful therapeutic parenting programmes/training contain the following key components:
The overall goals of parenting in this intentional, therapeutic way are REGULATION & RELATIONSHIP. Or put it another way, the job is to “Calm and Connect”. If you would like to know more about parenting therapeutically, click here.